We had our final social worker visit on Wednesday but we didn't get any new news. This new adoption route means that we are out of her hands and being put in the hands of the people on the adoption/permanency end of things. Because of that she isn't quite sure of how this will all happen, except for some general guidelines like "Well you SHOULD hear from someone before the 28th". The bummer about that is our social worker is type A like me and I love her! Now I get to rely on people who have made me their last priority! Feels a bit like international adoption :). Anyway she did say that our home study is being reviewed by her supervisor. She told her to have it back by the 28th and she said if she doesn't she will just turn in her rough draft to be considered for the boy. She also mentioned that the licensing worker for the foster family said we would be a good fit. That really means nothing but hey, I'll take it :).
While we count down the days to the 28th we are preparing for end of the school year events. We just had Anya's IEP and she is going to be in an amazing class next year. Her team is all the same people as Oksana's except she has a different special ed teacher. Her special ed teacher gets all of the kids with Down Syndrome and she knows Down Syndrome well. I think she will be awesome! Oksana's IEP will be at the beginning of the next school year but we do know that she will have a different special ed teacher and there are lots of discussions happening about what changes would benefit Oksana for next year and what changes are still more than she can handle. It proves to be yet another interesting year for her. I wish I had the same enthusiasm that she would have a great year as I have for Anya but I know her too well. It's going to be hard no matter what they do.
Before I start to focus too much on next year there is still this year to finish. This last week of school, as many of you know is a very unstructured week with lots of "fun" activities. Of course your definition of fun and the definition of fun to a child with a past of trauma are often two different things. While most children went bounding out of their houses for field day today full of excitement, Oksana was showing signs of stress. Her whole team is aware that these days are hard for her and are on alert to give her all of the breaks she needs and not worry about what she does or doesn't participate in. Yesterday I got an email from her OT saying that she was disassociating and her pupils were dilated. A classic stress response, but a different one for her since she usually attacks someone. I think the Risperdal is keeping that at bay some. This week last year was an absolute nightmare. On top of everything she had a para sub and she went absolutely insane. I was getting daily phone calls about her attacking children and teachers in the halls so I guess you could call this progress. Maybe.....
I'll just be glad when it's all over.
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